I've been coaching for a few years now, and the biggest thing I've learned - both for me and those I serve - is that inner confidence is the key to it all. You MUST have Confidence!
There are all kinds of strategies, ways of thinking, patterns of behavior and practical tips for improving your life and feeling better about yourself, but they're all redundant if the foundation isn't there.
That foundation is the real you, the you that you know deep down you are.
The trick is that it takes confidence to find that and to bring out who you are.
And here is the first of the three keys to real inner confidence.
1. Get To Know Your Values
Personal values are a big passion of mine and I often get carried away with myself when I talk about them. I make no apology for that! Knowing your values is one of the most important things you can know about yourself and it is vital to getting genuine inner confidence. Your values are ten thousand feet down inside you, right at the very core of who you are; and they're the building blocks, the foundation and cornerstone for you.
A value is something in yourself, in others or in the world that is most important to you, and could include things like faith, family, respect, progress, fun, nature, achievement or freedom. You must know your values!
Why is it that some people and situations leave you feeling angry, frustrated, demotivated or deflated? It is because one or more of your values is being denied, suppressed or repressed, and you experience that as a negative experience because it's denying a fundamental piece of who you are. You know those times when you feel really alive, amazing or buzzing? Those are the times when one or more of your values are being honored, and you can get more of that by living according to them.
Your values are all yours, and no matter what happens, no one can ever take them away. You can have absolute confidence in them because they are there all the time - just waiting for you to notice them and use them.
When you get to know your values, you can start to make choices and align your life around them. It's so simple, and it feels amazing because all it really means is that you are allowing who you are to live in the real world.
YOU ARE FABULOUS! Find, know and live in your true values, and watch your inner confidence BOOST higher than you can imagine!
WISE UP, LIVE AND PROPER!
Leslie G. Christie, Wise Woman
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