Have you ever questioned yourself? Questioned your life? Questioned your abilities? We've all been there, but if you are going to live the life that God has designed for you, you must do the work to boost your inner confidence. You must discover the real you - the you that's deep down inside of your being.
In the last post, we mentioned the first key - Get To Know Your Values! Go back and read that post, dated June 15, 2022.
In this post we are mentioning the second and third keys to Boosting Your Inner Confidence. That is, you must TRUST YOURSELF and you must EXERCISE THE MUSCLE!
2. Trust Yourself
People spend too much time looking for signs that they are doing the right thing or are on the right path. Sometimes we get that by hearing that we are doing well at work, sometimes it could be encouragement from a friend or loved one, and sometimes we get that feedback by seeing our material wealth or possessions growing.
But rather than looking on the outside for those signs, how about looking on the inside at what you are telling yourself?
How about trusting yourself to do the best thing and make great choices? How about trusting your own insights and using your own intuition? I've seen those ideas scare the bejeezus out of people, and you know why? Because it makes you accountable and responsible for what you get. If you trust yourself implicitly and you make the wrong choice, you've got nobody else to blame.
But the fact is that we all make mistakes and we'll all continue to make mistakes.
So how would it be if you could trust yourself to get through anything and trust yourself to continue making choices that serve you well, even if sometimes you screw up? That is the kind of trust I'm talking about, and that is genuine inner confidence.
Start by listening to yourself and noticing what your intuition is telling you. Be aware of that little voice inside you or those gut reactions you get and pay attention to what they're telling you. Trust yourself to make decisions, trust yourself to adapt, and trust that you're good enough to have, do or be whatever you want. True confidence will follow.
3. Exercise the Muscle
Confidence is a muscle, and like any muscle you need to exercise it so that it doesn't shrink and waste away. The problem is that unlike your biceps or glutes, which tend to stay in the same place, your confidence muscle can be harder to find. How do you develop your biceps or firm up your glutes? By doing exercises that are designed to work that muscle over a period of time until you see the results you were looking for.
It's just the same with confidence. Let's say that you're the kind of person that doesn't take many risks, the kind of person who goes through each day doing what needs to be done and doing it well, but not really stretching yourself. You might talk yourself out of doing something because it's too scary or because you think to yourself I'm not good enough, it's not who I am, or I don't really want it anyway. That kind of person lives within what they know and what keeps them safe and comfortable. The fewer risks they take, the less confident they need to be and so the less confident they become.
To work your confidence muscle you need to be prepared to take risks - big or small. You need to be willing to stretch yourself in an unfamiliar direction, to try something new or try something in a slightly different way. You need to open yourself up to the possibilities around you and push yourself to increase what you know, what you do and who you are. The more open you are to risk, opportunity and possibility the more confident you need to be, and so the more confidence you'll develop. That is your confidence muscle. The question is, "What are you going to do to exercise it?"
SO COME ON FABULOUS ONES -
DO WHAT IT TAKES TO BOOST YOUR INNER CONFIDENCE!
Wise Up, Live and Prosper!
Leslie G. Christie, Wise Woman
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